Honouring and Supporting Single Mission Workers

The day my daughter and her family left for their new role in missions was the proudest and saddest day of my life. They were traveling to the opposite side of the globe to serve in a third world country—with three children ages four, two, and newborn. At the airport, I pasted a smile on my face as I kissed the grandchildren and hugged my daughter and son-in-law. I stood watching outside the TSA barrier until they turned a corner and I had the last view of them. I walked slowly to the parking garage and started the four-hour drive home, but after only a few miles I had to pull over and weep. After all the planning and packing, my daughter and I had left too much unsaid. Perhaps we feared our words would hurt each other. I know I was trying so hard to be this strong, mature Christian mom—or whatever I thought that was supposed to look like. I had deep emotions that I didn’t know how to process. My daughter and her husband later told us that someone along the way during training had told them that parents were the biggest obstacle to young missionaries going onto the field. That kept them from opening up to us about their fears and concerns. They carried all of that alone. How much stronger we could have been by sharing our feelings, perhaps crying together and praying for one another and reaffirming our love for each other. My husband and I raised our daughter in a church that supported missions. We often hosted missionaries in our home for fundraising. So in a way, it was natural for our daughter to choose to serve overseas. Yet, when they left, we were still gut-wrenched. I felt guilty for hurting when my daughter and her family were obviously following God’s leading. I came to realize that my emotions weren’t a sign of spiritual immaturity but instead an opportunity and an indication that I needed to draw near to God and let Him teach and heal me. Learning from our experience, I would offer the following advice for a more healthy departure. For parents who are sending off their missionaries, I would encourage lots of open dialogue in the season leading up to leaving for the field. Be honest about your feelings even if they may be hard for your children to hear. Be careful to maintain a non-manipulative manner. The goal is not to change their mind but rather to get on the same team and be supportive. I would be careful to respect your adult children’s decisions and convey that to them. If you have reservations, you might express that once, but then be quick to listen to their response. Ask how you can pray for them. Work out ways to stay in communication and video chat with the grandchildren. I certainly had concerns about the third-world environment where my daughter and her husband were taking the young children. What if they got sick? I worried about the lack of car seats where they were going. I had such a long list of concerns caused by my fears. The bottom line was that I had to trust my daughter and her husband and their ability to listen to God. Most importantly, I had to continuously put my faith in God’s ability to protect my missionary family. If you are the goer, or person leaving for the field, I urge you to be patient with your parents. It may take time for their emotions to catch up as they deal with the loss of being in close contact with you. Let your parents know that they are still important to you and your grandchildren. As unreasonable as it may seem, I felt a sense of rejection and of being unneeded by my daughter and her family. Your parents may feel the same way, and conveying their continued importance in your life will go a long way toward healing the hurts. Missionaries often mention lack of emotional support or approval from their parents as a major detractor while on the field. If your parents are not believers or do not offer their blessing to your work, it is good to continue giving them love and respect. As kindly as possible, explain your convictions and let them know that serving overseas is something you must do as you follow God’s leading. Perhaps your example and continued love and respect for them will be a catalyst in their life to become believers or go deeper in their faith. If conversations between parents and those leaving become unhealthy or heated, seeking help from a professional counselor can be a great step to take. I spoke with two counselors and asked their advice before writing this article. I was reminded that there are certain guidelines to use when having difficult conversations. Often it isn’t what is said but how it is said. Be sure to start statements with “I feel,” showing that you own your emotions, rather than “you always,” which sounds like an accusation. Once the other person feels attacked, they will shut down and likely not hear anything that you have to say. Keep the goal of the conversation in mind and not your list of frustrations. The goal is to have unity and mutual respect and to become a support to each other while living on different sides of the world. As goers, you need your parents’ support; let them know how important that is to you. As the senders, it helps your adult children to receive your emotional and spiritual blessing after any contentious conversation. I have learned to frequently convey to my children on the field that I am proud of them. They need to hear it every time we talk because they are following God into difficult situations with plenty of criticism coming from other arenas. We are told in 1 Peter 5:8 that there is an enemy, Satan, who is constantly circling among us, seeking ways to devour believers. May we learn to stand firm, freely giving encouragement and support to help our missionaries serve without the added weight of discord from home. This blog was written by and generously contributed by Ann Bowman. Ann Bowman is the author of I Never Signed Up for This: One Mother’s Journey to Surrender Her Children to Their Calling . Her author website, NeverSignedUpforThis.com , has an email contact form and links to her articles and podcasts.

The sending triangle is a crucial element in making sure a cross-cultural worker thrives from start to finish. Each entity (or corner of the triangle) is vital to the success of the mission. The sending church is tasked with commissioning workers, gathering the human resources for Advocacy Teams (more on these team later), mobilizing financial partners and prayer partners, and providing the spiritual and pastoral care for each commissioned worker. The sending agency is responsible for clear and consistent strategy, coaching, and ongoing spiritual care through the entirety of the global worker’s career. The global worker is responsible for recruiting partners in prayer, financial, and other supportive relationships that will sustain them on the field. The global worker is also responsible for pursuing the mission, obediently following Christ, and in time, becoming an expert on the field. When all three parties communicate and co-labor well, the mission at hand has the greatest chance for effectiveness and success. The sending church remains actively engaged, the sending agency actively supports the mission and the worker, and the global worker has their ongoing needs for community, advocacy, and support met. Sending Church Responsibilities (Shepherd Focus) Initial Commissioning This initial period is for the church to identify the sent ones among them and launch the global worker well. Resources are collected to support them, advocacy teams installed for their ongoing care, and a plan is established for the spiritual care of the worker. Develop an Advocacy Team An Advocacy Team is the most tangible expression of the body of Christ’s commitment to support missionaries. This team coordinates, supports, and encourages the missionary units (single, couple, or family). The Advocacy Team also serves as the global workers’ representatives to their local body. The team exists to provide strong personal relationships, where the cross-cultural workers can be open and honest, allowing them to share needs, wins and losses, and provide a confidential environment of support and trust. Ongoing Spiritual, Relational, and Congregational Support The entire local church needs to be involved in supporting missionaries. Just as NASA would not simply light a rocket’s fuse without providing operational support, the role of the church and the global worker is to consistently communicate regarding the mission. After all, it is a shared mission between those carrying out the work and those facilitating it from the ground, ensuring adjustments in trajectory are made along the way. This is where the ongoing work of the Advocacy Team is critical to a well-executed mission. Sending Agency (Apostolic Focus) Clear Strategy The sending organization helps the candidate create a clear strategy aligned with the overall mission of the sending agency and sending church. The mission agency commits to continuing to provide clear strategy throughout the global worker’s terms on the field and into resettling. Coaching Success comes through committed coaches empowering the global worker to flourish on the field. The mission agency collaborates with the worker to create ministry action plans, language acquisition strategies, and cross-cultural training. Ongoing Strategic, Coaching, and Spiritual Alignment Global workers need to receive regular spiritual guidance from the sending organization while on the field. This means the mission agency provides ongoing support through counseling, spiritual direction, and pastoral support. Providing ongoing spiritual alignment is vital for the global worker to abide in community, abide in Christ, and stay steadfast in mission readiness. Global Worker: (Field Focus) Sent Ones The global worker determines that they are called by God to become a cross-cultural servant. They wait and grow in faithfulness while their sending church and sending organization is established and begins working towards developing a support structure. This includes financial partners, advocacy teams, and advice from church leaders, as well as with the leaders in the sending organization. Co-Laborers Co-laboring with Christ starts before, during, and after the worker arrives on the field. Language acquisition and orientation to cross-cultural life bring great ministry opportunities. The global worker begins to execute the vision God gave to go and make disciples. Becoming Experts on the Ground In time, the global worker becomes the expert on the ground for the sending church. The worker communicates with the sending church (and the sending agency) about local needs and how both the church and agency can support the mission through advocacy, funding, in-person visits, or technical support from afar. A sending triangle framework where all three parties are uniquely responsible for the success of the mission is often neglected in missiology today. We believe it is important to recognize the needs and responsibilities of all three entities. The local church is not simply responsible for sending dollars overseas, but to be fully devoted to sending and supporting global workers well. The sending agency is responsible for providing strategic, missional, and spiritual support while consistently communicating with the other parties involved. Finally, the global worker is responsible for being intentional in their relationship with their sending church and in routine communication with the sending agency regarding important life events and mission critical adjustments. When these three entities work together, we will see the fruits of our shared missional success as Europe (and beyond) is transformed by Jesus. This blog was written by Greg Salvo and generously contributed by Greater Europe Mission US. You can read the original post here .

As we reflect on this, we want to say a big thank you to all of our listeners; whether you’ve been here from the start or if you’ve just discovered us, we’re so thankful for you! The reason we can provide resources like this is because of God’s grace and your commitment. To celebrate this milestone, we’ve put together a list of our top ten favourite podcast episodes for you to enjoy. We hope they will both encourage your heart and further equip you as you continue to explore your involvement in the Great Commission. Happy listening! 10. #040: Well Sent – What is the Church’s Role in Sending Missionaries? In this episode, we explore Steve Beirn’s book Well Sent and take a look at what church involvement looks like in missions. We discuss the key roles of the churches in being active participants in identifying and preparing potential missionaries in their congregations. You’ll also learn tips on how to better support missionaries overseas as well as the work they are doing. 9. #238: Loving the Pieces of Purple in Our Midst Michèle Phoenix dives into her own story to share personal experiences and practical insight on the challenges and beauty of growing up as a Missionary’s Kid. In her book Pieces of Purple, Michèle offers guidance for churches and individuals on how to better understand, support, and care for Third Culture Kids with empathy, intentionality, and grace. 8. #099: What is the Great Commission? Paul Borthwick, the author of Great Commission, Great Compassion, guides the listener into a deeper understanding of the Great Commission and how it can apply to all Christ-followers regardless of their own personal context. In this discussion, Paul shares practical advice and examples on how believers can be participating in the Great Commission in their daily lives. 7. #242: The Case for Co-Vocational Ministry This episode explores the growing movement of co-vocational ministry, which is a model that intentionally integrates one’s everyday work with missional engagement and can be applied to both local churches and global contexts. Dr. Brad Brisco takes this time to unpack the theology of work, clarify the differences between bi-vocational and co-vocational ministry, and share why this long-term approach can strengthen church planting, missionary sustainability, and missional imagination. 6. #065: Is Every Christian a Missionary? Denny Spitters and Matthew Ellison explore their book When Everything is Missions to help us re-discover what a missionary is. Pointing to Scripture, they challenge Christ-followers to be intentional in developing a biblical understanding of missions as they consider their own role in participating in the Great Commission. 5. #203: How Local Churches Can Care for Missionaries at Every Stage In this conversation, Ryan Martin shares different components of member care that churches can be involved in. He discusses aspects of what member care can look like during the pre-field, on-field, and post-field stages of a missionary’s life, and this episode will help you spark ideas and take practical steps to care well for those who are sent by your church. 4. #128: 5 Things Everyone Should Understand About Missionaries Jonathan Trotter, co-author of Serving Well, helps the audience grow in their understanding of what life can be like for missionaries. Gleaning from his own experience as a mission worker and counselor, Jonathan shares five ideas that can help sending churches better empathize with and support their cross-cultural workers as they walk through life alongside them. 3. #179: Sending Churches and Partner Agencies: Finding a Great Match Ellen Livingood, founder and director of Catalyst Services, shares from her own experiences about what factors should contribute to a church’s decision of which mission agency to partner with. Ellen takes a look into this decision making process and provides several helpful questions that will guide your church as they navigate these important choices. 2. #121: 3 Principles for Growing a Healthy Church Pastor Bradley Bell of The Upstream Collective highlights some tools that are specifically designed for pastors and church leaders to help them lead their church in missions. Our host, Mags, and Bradley discuss three elements that characterize a healthy sending church along with practical resources that can help busy church leaders be more effective in their missions ministry. 1. #166: What does the Bible Say About Missions? Author of On Mission Together: Integrating Missions into the Local Church, Richard Noble, shares his insights on the biblical foundations for missions throughout the Old and New Testaments. Through an in-depth exploration into the theology of missions, you will be encouraged and inspired as this episode reflects on God’s promises and commands throughout Scripture. Once again, thank you so much for your support! We’re committed to providing excellent resources for you and your church, so feel free to check out our other podcasts and blogs. As always, if you have any comments, questions, or suggestions, we would love to connect with you; feel free to reach out at info@globalmissionstoolbox.com.

While only a few people might actually go overseas or into a specific ministry, the mission work isn’t only for them; it’s God’s work and He invites all those who follow Him to partake in fulfilling the Great Commission. There are countless ways to incorporate missions into every aspect of the local church, and we’ve listed a few here for you to help you get your creativity flowing! We want to help you discover ways to involve your whole church in God’s Kingdom work.

Going on a short-term mission trip is a wonderful opportunity for people of any age to see the work that God is doing in the world.  While there are countless things to be learned throughout the trip, one crucial aspect that can be easily overlooked is the debriefing process.  Without taking proper time to reflect, […] The post Advice for Debriefing Short-Term Mission Trips appeared first on Global Missions Toolbox.

Care packages can be a key way to support overseas mission workers.  The holidays can be an especially difficult time for those who are a long way from their home and family.  Receiving a care package can be a way to both provide for a need they have and encourage them.  As the Christmas season […] The post 5 Tips for Sending Care Packages this Christmas appeared first on Global Missions Toolbox.

As we prepare our hearts for Easter, our team wants to offer a space for you to reflect on Jesus’ ministry as the perfect template for missions. Indeed, He was sent (Jn 20:21), He left (Jn 3:13), He loved (Jn 15:8), He served (Mk 10:45), He sacrificed (Eph 5:2), He commissioned (Mt 28:18-20), and He […] The post A Guided Reflection on the Ultimate Mission: Easter appeared first on Global Missions Toolbox.

This blog was written by Leanne Monge Barrera and generously contributed by Greater Europe Mission Canada. You can read the original post here. Do you remember your first exposure to missions? If you grew up in a Christian church, perhaps the idea was first planted in Vacation Bible School. There we would be regaled of […] The post Why Should We Care About Missions? appeared first on Global Missions Toolbox.

This blog and accompanying resource were developed by Leanne Monge Barrera and generously contributed by Greater Europe Mission Canada. You can find the original post here.  Click on any of the following categories to download this prayer guide for pastors, for missions committees, or for friends and families. Prayers are vital to the longevity and […] The post A Month of Missions-Minded Prayer appeared first on Global Missions Toolbox.